Page 20 The Islamic Bulletin Issue 19 Backbiting The Muslim has to guard his tongue and avoid things that have been forbidden. Among these forbidden things which people often take lightly are gheebah (backbiting), buhtan (slander) and nameemah (malicious gossip). Gheebah or backbiting means speaking about a Muslim in his absence and saying things that he would not like to have spread around or mentioned. Buhtan or slander means saying things about a Muslim that are not true, or in other words telling lies about him. Nameemah or malicious gossip means telling one person what another said in order to cause trouble between them. There is a great deal of evidence to show that these actions are haram (impermissible). It will suffice for us to mention just a few of them in order to demonstrate that they are haram. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful” [49:12] It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Do you know what gheebah (backbiting) is?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He said, “Saying something about your brother that he dislikes.” It was said, “What if what I say about my brother is true?” He said, “If what you say is true then you have backbitten about him, and if it is not true, then you have slandered him.” [Muslim] Often times we backbite and gossip about others without thinking much of it. We treat it lightly, however, Allah reminds us that in fact it may be a serious sin in the sight of Allah! The Quran says: “When you were propagating it with your tongues, and uttering with your mouths that whereof you had no knowledge, you counted it a little thing, while with Allah it was very great.” (Quran 24:15) Many people are so busy spreading slander they hear that they do not stop for a minute to ponder whether it is true or not. Allah says: “And why, when you heard it, did you not say: ‘It is not for us to speak of this. Exalted are You, [O Allah]; this is a great slander’?” (Quran 24:16) We need to be careful of letting our tongues slip. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “When man wakes up in the morning each day, all his body parts warn his tongue saying: ‘Fear Allah with regards to us, for we are under your mercy; if you are upright, we will be upright and if you are crooked, we will be crooked.’” (Tirmidhi) The reward of controlling our tongue is Paradise. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “He who protects his tongue from unlawful utterances and his private parts from illegal sexual intercourse, I shall guarantee him entrance into Paradise.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Muslim) Prohibition of Listening to Gossip We should not pay attention to gossip that is criticizing a fellow Muslim or listen to it with enjoyment and hope to hear more. Allah says, “And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight and the heart – about all those [one] will be questioned.” (Quran 17:36) The Prophet said, “Whoever defends the honor of his brother, Allah will protect his face from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.” (Silsilah as-Sahihah) We should remember who is the best Muslim that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has defined for us. He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “He is the one from whom Muslims are safe from the evil of his tongue and hands.” (Saheeh Muslim) When is Backbiting Allowed? Islam teaches us that if people are being ridiculed or backbitten in our presence, we should defend their honor. If we neglect doing so, we risk depriving ourselves of the ever-needed help and mercy from Allah. Yet, some situations allow us to inform others of what someone has done. 1. Complaint to someone in authority who can address the wrong when an injustice has been done. 2. Seeking religious guidance from a Muslim scholar. 3. To get help in changing a wrong or to prevent a disaster. 4. Consultation in matters of marriage, business, asking about a neighbor before moving, etc. In these cases we are allowed reveal only as much as necessary about the person. All these forms of ‘backbiting’ are allowed.
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